What makes people unlucky

I was laid off and money is tight and at 62 U have sent hundred of resumes for which I am more than qualified. Postponed constantly. I am a positive person. People always talk about what a happy fun person I am. Everyday is a new problem, even my friends are like Wow. I keep thinking things are going to get better but at this point they are not.

I did not bring this in my self. I am at a loss. Cannot understand. Friends forget me so easily, even my good deeds are forgotten easily, money hardly meet money in my pocket, still challenges keep coming , I live with grate hope but sometimes I feel like am just fooling my self , by having such hopes.

But in all I put my self to God. Thanks for the article. Great article, I try to use tho proactive approach to attracting positivity it seems to be effective most of the time!! He said they will even factor this into the timeline of a product launch. You could apply this to any thing you want to accomplish in life; ie that failure is just a learning tool on the path to your inevitable success, you just have to keep at it!

Hello, my name is Deven So 6 mnths ago I got bored an started doing browsing on superstition of salt! An found how interesting and powerful it is but I came across this video on the internet and it said to put salt in each corner of your house to protect you from negativity and so I thought I would give it a shot an see!

I did what it said to do an it actually worked , there was positive impact on everything I did whether be at work or at the home! Then I found another one of these salt videos about pouring salt in a small bag an hang it above the main door to bring money in! I also tried it but it felt like I losing more money than I could make it! So I took it down because it felt very wrong and uncomfortable!

So I told my boss at the time what is going on, he said that he had some blessed dirt from a church or dirt pit from one of the first Catholic monk in AZ. All I was trying to do was get more money to come in an be stable! The thing is that I have already mapped out things to make things better.

I am allergic to all shampoos and most soaps. However, there were still vendors on the internet offering the old version. Just in case, I wrote the vendor I was going to use and asked to confirm that they really had the old stock and not the new soap.

They promised me they did, then mailed me the new soap that I was allergic to. Finally i got that resolved after haggling with Amazon multiple times. But I really do try to deal with problems, but if there is a defective product to try to get rid of, companies ship to me.

I just ordered 5 anvil and blade sets for anvil loppers from Ace Hardware. I was sent 2 anvils and 3 blades. After complaining, they actually mailed me 5 complete sets. So I ended up with 7 anvils and 8 blades. I guess that could be considered lucky, except that I spend so much time having to fight for things to be corrected that I really would just prefer to get what I order.

I guess part of this is that this country is fucked up right now. Probably not everyone has the energy to mess with returns, which makes it more profitable to just mail them right back out.

And part of my bad luck is that my dad was a crazy hoarder who died in , and I inherited his mess to clean up of Goodwill rejects and Craigslist garbage. Getting rid of metric tons of trash really is a time drain, especially when you have bad health and are having to look after a mom with MS and other fun health issues. A mom whose new house is still not equipped properly for her handicapped issues. My mom does that too.

There are no bounds when you compare things with other potential things that could be wrong. But even more annoying would have been the line about just asking for help. I have asked for help. People love to say you just need to ask for help. People are not as keen on giving help.

Advice yes, help, not so much. Anyway, sorry for the rant. It really does help. It also helps you discover solutions, ways of maybe doing things more efficiently or solving or reducing the stress of problems. My wife can only use natural shampoos because the others cause itchy scalp issues. Sadly, my stepmother died of MS related issues, so I know exactly how devastating and emotionally draining this disease can be.

The rat infestation was horrid and the house was just rotting. Things can and will get better. Take some time out for you.

I tried very hard to make my life be worth living and was decent in it too and never hurt any living being on purpose and everything failed for me.

Someone can show me how they take a box from the floor and put it on a table. In the strangest ways I will fail. The box breaks, the table breaks, I trip, something falls on me, etc. All very well and good. I can fully understand why people take the easy way out, one quiet Tuesday afternoon. It is truly as if someone wants me to suffer. My entire life has been nothing but a cruel joke. My husband just diagnosed with a terminal illness….

Think negatively? Be bitter? That only spirals one way. If you still have a fighting chance then you have to take the odds. Honestly you have no idea, I pray ome day the curse will leave me. I feel like I know where it came from too. But good luck with your journey guys! I have had lots of bad things happen. I survived an alcoholic first husband even though he tried to murder me. I finally managed to run away with my sons they have turned out to be great boys…kind hearted, gentle, hard working.

I survived poverty, nearly being made homeless. I had 2 long illnesses not cancer it took 2 years to diagnose the second one and I lost over 12 stone in the process until surgery and recovery. I survived a house fire….

I would have been homeless but, for house insurance…they paid for hotel then rented property and for the repairs. That same year it was my third piece of bad luck….

January my beloved German Shepherd died in my arms at home, she was not even ill. In July my best friend of 21 years who I had been a career for for 17 years passed away from a non cancerous slow growing brain tumour. She had a seizure, fell from her stairlift and I found her barely alive. After being on life support for a week I had to make the decision to switch it off because non of her family cared enough to bother with her for 10 years because she ran out of money to give them…so very sad!!!!

September was the house fire. Since then I have returned to my house. At the time of the fire my only thought was that I woke and was able to escape with my dog. Me and my dog were the only important things and we survived. In the last couple of years I have bee suffering foot pain and after many appointments and trying all the things the doctors told me to do I am on the waiting list for surgery…which should alleviate a lot of the pain.

I now have three dogs and they keep me going, exercise, play and they give lots of love. I struggle a bit at work but, my employer has given me an adapted desk and a special chair and made allowances for my not being able to stand for long periods of time for floor walking nor for travelling to another location to work. So, this too is positive.

I do my beat not to think negative thoughts though sometimes I do but, I try to move on from them. It distracted him and he relaxed his grip enabling my mother to push him off get up and run. He never tried to harm me just stared at me. I then ran too. The police caught him but, did not prosecute as he was an escapee from one of the local mental health facilities, of which there were 5 in our town at the time. My mother never spoke about this after it happened and she could not bare to be around me as it reminded her of what happened.

I grew up with this in the depths of my mind from until my dad told me in that I had saved my mother from being murdered. So I finally managed to deal with this and move on. To me what is done is done and anything that now happens I deal with and move on.

Okay I am not showered with riches, nor do I have the perfect life not reality really but, for me I just keep going and hope for the future to get better. I know that for some people it is difficult and many will have a life far worse than mine.

I try to help people where I can nowadays both at work and in personal life however, I do make sure I have time for me these days. I came across this article at the moment I needed it most and just wanted to say Thankyou for helping me pick myself up off the ground.

My car has been hit four times in separate occasions parked on my street. No witness no notes left by the 3rd party! I cant believe my bad luck! None of the other cars on my road has been hit once let alone four times! Why is this happening to me? Why my car? Its Unbelievable! Makes me depressed i just cant understand why its happening. I am a good driver and very carful but when its parked theres nothing i can do to avoid this happening.

Very bad luck for many of us men trying to find love nowadays, especially since most women now that have their very high standards along with a lot of very high unrealistic expectations too. Most women in the past were nothing at all like today, which is why finding love was very easy back then. Most women today are very pathetic, and they need to just get a bunch of cats and grow very old all alone with them. I always struggle. Nothing comes easy to me.

I see people getting success like a cakewalk but for me, it saps all my energy and will power. Your article helped me because resonated with me.

What I am going through. I do not see any end to my bad luck. It is now part of my life. It is how my life has been written. But it was good to read an article that talked about feelings that I go through.

Hang in there Kusum. Keep pushing forward and believe in yourself. Good things are going to come your way. My life is very similar. I work very hard, try to make the right decisions, and nothing goes well. I have not been lucky in life. I never found a partner.

Just had to deal with heart issues, and something was seen on MRI that was an extra finding. I have a spinal stenosis. Not good. Now I have to deal with this. I feel terrorized in my body. It seems something is always going wrong, and I live in a healthy way. I take care of myself. Thanks for putting theses words. Thanks again for not speaking spiritually and making believing of Karmas or god or something else.

We all know that we just have to wake up and move the floor and action with enough dedication, research and commitment. But sometimes we need external forces like you or some medium to say us Wake up this is the direction you are supposed to take and correct us. Anyone else believe in generational curses? It seems like some of us have it. I was born into a happy average income earning family in Beirut Lebanon. My mother came from a broken family and my father came from poverty Armenians from the diaspora during genocide but they both managed to give us a happy life until october my father aged 49 died from a heart attack and ever since then every bad luck you can think of has plagued us.

We were 4 siblings, me the youngest, 11 years between the 3rd child and I, my mother calls me her miracle child but in reality our lives have been nothing close to a miracle. Everything we ever had or strived for was met with so much pushback and devastation one can only wonder what evil powers are at play here! Same boat, same struggles. It always seems like in any situation if there is a possibility of a shitty outcome, it will find me.

The bad karma for me is instant…………waiting for the day I see the light at the end of that tunnel. What if you could be the one to break out and find peace and happiness? I lost my last job after i had been promotion to a supervisor level and was in line for another promotion and transfer from a Mine to the HQ. I do stay hopeful positive but as i say, odds are against. You have two kids and a hell of a lot of life experience to share with them and others in the world. That counts for a lot.

Hang in there, keep moving forward, one step at a time. Be strong for your kids and let their spirit motivate you to be the best you can. Something good is coming your way. I just know it is. For the men and women out there nowadays that are married with a family, you should really consider yourselves very lucky and blessed since you have each other and your children to share your life with.

Many of us single men have been very Cursed with singleness by God unfortunately, and many of us men would had certainly wanted that as well. Being single and alone for many of us is really No fun at all. I am now almost 70 years old. I have studied bad luck and I can tell you that we are born with a tendency for events bad and good luck. Per the Chinese Zodiac I am a Rabbit and one of my bad luck numbers is 7.

The worst years of my life have been 21, 28 35 and 63, all divisions of 7. I have several examples of 7 being bad luck for me. I never believed in any of the stuff before 3 years ago. I now bereave it is where, when and who you are born to that determines most of your life. You can change some of your luck by avoiding pitfalls-dangerous situations and people.

However we are mostly screwed. Positive thinking has a vary negative result on me. JJ, I can empathize. We almost have to do things in a custom way completely different than others just to be able to have a content and peaceful time. Good luck. The truth is, no one has figured out padlock. If someone is always trying to make the right choices, always trying to learn from mistakes, and always trying to pick themselves up from being let down or had gone through bad circumstances, and they STILL have bad luck…..

At least for now. Welp, I actually read every single one of these responses and not a single one compares. I am absolutely in a state of complete and total despair. None of which have I had any control over whatsoever. Senseless to put anything here as it would just be regurgitating again for nobody to see anyway. I think my mother cursed me before she died.

Healthy connection , on the other hand — where we feel relaxed and able to be totally ourselves, and accepted for that — not only lowers depression but is shown by research to increase our health and longevity. This can be a tough one to admit to. After all, you did experience a trauma.

You are a victim. But when did the trauma happen? What have you actively done to take care of yourself and heal from it ever since? Have you worked to heal? Or did you, somewhere along the line, get a bit too used to the sympathy talking about it gets you? And start to create your whole identity around the victim mentality?

Feel that this idea is simply unfair? Viktor Frankl was a psychotherapist who suffered through the worst atrocities humankind has seen, that of a concentration camp. But we are all absolutely capable of taking the time to weave purpose and meaning into all areas of our life.

Frankl attributed the fact that he got through life in a concentration camp without the broken spirit seen in other survivors to refusing to give up seeking meaning. Back to that ten year study on luck. It proved that actually, you can indeed choose to be lucky. Yes, pain, victimhood, unhealthy relationships, and misery are addictive. They can be a comfort zone. It can take real effort to move on, to learn positive ways of seeing and being, and can often involve a commitment to therapy or coaching.

Plenty of others throughout history have been plagued by successive calamities. There's Violet Jessop, who worked as a stewardess on the maiden voyage of the Titanic in , and managed to survive the giant liner's collision in the North Atlantic with an iceberg -- only to take a job as a nurse on the Britannic, which sank in in the Aegean Sea.

And more recently, there's the bizarre story of English tourists Jason and Jenny Cairns-Lawrence, who were visiting New York City when Al Qaeda hijackers crashed two planes into the World Trade Center on September 11, , and happened to be in London when the city's public transportation system was attacked by terrorists in July , and traveled to Mumbai, India in November , just in time to witness a third terrorist attack.

The idea that some people are destined to suffer chronic misfortune is so ingrained in our consciousness that there even have been songs written about it -- for example, "Born Under a Bad Sign," the blues classic recorded by Albert King back in , in which the narrator complains that "if it wasn't for bad luck, I wouldn't have no luck at all. But is there really such a thing as chronic bad luck, and if so, why do some people seem to be plagued by it?

Psychologists and academic experts in probability and statistics, who've studied the phenomenon of bad luck, provide a complicated answer. It is true that in the course of a lifetime, some people have a lot more bad things happen to them than most of us do. But that outcome can be influenced by a variety of factors, including random chance, the actions of other people, and individuals' own decision-making skills and competence at performing tasks.

Lucky people took seconds. On the second page, there was a large message that read: "Stop counting. There are 43 photographs in this newspaper. The self-professed lucky people were simply more observant. Lucky people are also optimistic. They have positive expectations, which lead to self-fulfilling prophecies. Even if things take a turn for the worse, they can spot the good in a situation. Unlucky people might see the same situation and only point out the negatives. Not only do positive expectations help people become happier, but they can also help make the most of difficult situations.

To see if unlucky people could turn their luck around, Wiseman enrolled his participants in his "luck school", where he put people through a series of exercises to increase their luck. The results were astonishing. After one month of enrollment, 80 percent of people reported themselves as happier, more satisfied with their lives, and most importantly, luckier.

The lucky ones became luckier, and the unlucky turned lucky.